Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Complexity


This is my virtual headspace, so, allow my indulgence. 

1. I think we, as ordinary beings of this very meritocratic world, are mostly pretty much concerned with our own performance or progress or whatevs, To be rather truthful, I don't ever fancy being termed the 'Underdogs'. However, just like its usually colder at the mountaintop, not everyone has ability/propensity/intensity to be at the top, probably just a few 'lucky' ones. 

I always believe, you give some you take some, these 'lucky' few had probably given what I was reluctant/neglected to give, in exchange of those certain privileges of being at the top, so, I should not feel bitter, in fact I should try to find out how to get better. Exactly. 

2. I always have to catch myself from spiralling into a couple of specific thoughts. Most poisonous of all, 'The Grass is always Greener on the Other Side.' Without a doubt, this could be true in some instance, but I should not allow it to affect me in a negative way. 

Like how I imagined, I thought I could do better with no supervision, when really, it just allows me to reduce my effort way more than I should, thinking no one will notice. When I was told to work on my business in a certain marketing channel, I always thought my other colleague, who does their marketing in a different channel, had it easier. Over the time, I did test the latter. Conclusion? It's mostly about hard work, intensity, tenacity and if truth be told, none of those methods were easy. So, I should not use this 'The Grass is always Greener on the Other Side' as an excuse of my Fear of Failure. 


Saturday, 9 July 2016

逞强? 坚强? 傻傻分不清楚。

其实逞强, 在我看来, 这只是一种自我保护机制。 人啊, 生存在这社会上, 往往免不了被规划成为一个个的组织, 可能以工作, 以兴趣, 甚至, 更广泛的, 以年龄层来作为规范标准。 当然, 如此以来, 人, 很难会只是一个个体般存在。

当你隶属一种规范, 就必须有某种程度的表现, 言行举止也必定在规划的设计范围之内, 并不怎么主张特异独行。 这么说, 仿佛有些抽象, 容我稍作解释, 譬如, 当一个人在销售行业的岗位上, 你的行为规范是努力, 坚强, 排除万难, 而, 当你懒散, 不集中, 你就是当中的朽木, 大多也不会有多标榜的作为。 这就是你的期许。

而人, 由于自尊的关系, 不喜欢被冠上如此的坏名声, 所以, 都会表现在标准范围之内, 倘若你得到了所谓的成功, 你就是坚强。 反之, 当你的努力不懈, 并没有得到预期的回报, 别人可以堂而皇之地喻你为逞强, 不是吗? 说着说着, 可能自己也信了, 如别人的以为, 自己并未想象中坚强。 

坚强, 固然是每一个人都向往的特质, 然, 它未必存在于性格里的每一个层面。 人, 总有坚强不了的地方, 称之为弱点。

说实在的, 是否在逞强, 也只有自己知道。 而你可以有意识地停止这样的动作, 企图让自己喘息, 正视自己的不足是因为方式不当抑或是全然的性格不符。

相对的, 也可采取掩耳盗铃的方式, 继续逞强, 进而跌入一种恶性循环, 直到泥足深陷, 不能自拔, 而自我感觉永远永远不良好。 然, 你无法停止, 因为你太在意别人的眼光, 深怕在别人眼里反射出的自己是懈怠的。

说真的, 写了这么个长篇大论, 有结论吗? 其实, 仍然无解。 因为我也不知道, 自己是坚强抑或是逞强。 罢了。