人, 很容易就会不经意地跌入了自己所制造的漩涡里。试想像, 一位充满热忱的舞者,每一天都用尽全身的精力游移于一种快节奏的一支舞蹈, 日复日的重复着, 迟早也会有厌恶或疲倦的一天。
常言道: 休息是为了走更长远的路。人, 总有需要适时地停下脚步, 看看星空, 听听虫鸣, 嗅一嗅咸咸的海风, 感受晨露凝缩在脸上。 最重要是, 是聆听自己心灵最真实的初衷, 才不至于, 在傭傭碌碌的生活节奏中迷失了自己。
说实在, 人生中, 往往有着许许多多的事件发生, 使之觉得绝望, 然, 也同时充斥着希望, 矛盾吗? 或许吧。就好比, 暖流遇上寒流, 不住地周旋, 以至造成了漩涡。明确地掌握着自己的初衷, 就仿佛是一艘船, 已经把锚扔进水里, 嵌于海床中。有了重心, 尽管有漩涡, 也不至于没入深沉的海里, 无法自救。
好, 好一个离题的人。我写这篇文的初衷, 其实只是要埋怨我长期处于疲乏的状态, 连玩 Sodoku 还没有玩完一局就打瞌睡了。 殊不知, 写着写着, 写完了, 我还没有提到Sudoku, 所以, 在文中末段, 忠于初衷, 仍然必须提到。
Do you find that some days you just feel invincible and you can practically achieve that particular goal you'd been thinking about so much? The mental picture of you, feeling ecstatic that you'd finally done something you're really proud of yourself for. You are so sure that you will be able to do what you need to do, in order to be there, because you are affirmed in your mind that the only reason you hadn't was because of yourself. And today is going to be the day that you will stop all the self sabotage, that in procrastinating, you will actually do more harm than it being status quo. Well, these are the feel-good days. And, pretty much, far and between for me.
Because, more often than not, you are presented with more trying days. Days when you wake up and just literally flopped back into bed for another couple of minutes of sleep, that turned into hours, and before you knew it, the day is almost over, with nothing on the to-do list checked.
Sometimes, other matters just keep popping up, distracting you from all the things that needs to be done. Sometimes, your emotional self just creeps up your back and shadows you around, and then, before you knew it, you are in the company of other friends, like self doubts, lazy ass and over thinking.
And to put it bluntly, this is the time when you should take out your little mind tool, named Focus! It's an actual word, though some people like to think it is 'Follow One Course Until Success'. And this, my friend, is why you should really 'black and white' your goals. Meaning? you may ask.
It's putting down your goals in words, or pictures. Something which has a physical presence. The human mind, in my humble opinion, can be pretty forgetful at all. And this 'black and white' will remind you not to stray off the course that you'd mapped, lest you regret allowing yourself to let it all slides. I'm going to start mine. Have you, yours? Do share.
We hate to think we belong in the rat race, if given a choice, we'd much rather be amongst the lots who had broke free the reins of chasing social standards, and transcend beyond this perceived reality of our contained little universe called society and live free, doing things that we deemed as self-actualizing, even if it doesn't come with returns other than a feel-good feeling.
However, to put it quite bluntly, it is not that possible for most folks, whom really had mouths to feed and food that has to appear on the dining table, or wherever you choose to have your meal. And when placed at a crossroad in such a manner, now is the decision to make, to opt for what's right, versus what you like. Whichever is being selected, you either adopt a new way of life, believing less is more. Or the latter, where as you drift farther or farther from what you truly desired from the inner workings of your heart. Of which, you tend to die a little bit inside day by day, until every bits of your desired self is being replaced by the reformed you, that you can barely recognize that this is the same person who had the dilemma of living freely and having freedom of financial choices.
Of course, that being said, who's to define that there couldn't be a third choice? Most of the times, not all that we see is in black or white, grey areas exist, it could be in 50 different shades for all we know (pun intended. :) ) Whether our head rules, or the heart reign, it's all on a spectrum, hardly leaning entirely to one end and have no yearnings for the other. So, we have to obtain a balance of the two, which, if truth be told, is a more arduous journey. It's like serving two bosses who are at loggerheads at any given point of time. That, is an Art form.
